E6 Social – Duty

This is what I call a "Prussian character." The social E6 is cold, very formal. Kant, for example, was a great philosopher. He was a Prussian, and the Prussians had that form of character which has a great love of precision and an intolerance of ambiguity. This is precisely the complete opposite of the Conservation Six, which is warm and too permissive of ambiguity.

Among the Nazis there were many social sixes. His behavior is very visible: "this is the line, the party line, the line that defines who are the good guys and who are the bad guys... and what we need to do and we do it very efficiently." In efficiency, the social E6 is similar to an E3.

Ichazo used the word duty, it is more than just being concerned with duty, for the six socials are primarily concerned with the reference point. They have the mind of a legislator, clear categories. His intellectual orientation is to know very well where the north is, where the south is, and the west, and the east, and...

And if they ever wanted to become human, they would first need to go crazy and forget all the landmarks. They need to forget duty — no duty at all — and connect with instinct and intuition, with life.

The transformation in the social E6 by Gerardo Ortiz

After years of personal work, what is left behind?

It seems to me a very difficult task to make a self-assessment of my process over time and not fall into the conscious or unconscious temptation to favor me in the evaluation, pretending to sell the idea that I am better at present. However, being able to recognize the great subjectivity in which I can fall when doing this self-evaluation, forces me to be stricter and more demanding when applying this exam, doing an exercise in honesty.

With this explicit preamble, I can refer to my conclusion, sharing that a significant element in this diagnosis is the feeling of well-being with myself, achieved in recent times. This is a real novelty, since for many years of my life I felt a deep rejection of being as I was and maintained a fierce fight against myself.

This heartfelt feeling — as Eugene Gendlin calls it in his book on Focusing — of deep well-being, taste and joy in being who I am, is the hallmark of guarantee that I am not deceiving myself and that this appreciation I now feel for myself is the fruit gained over years of work and commitment to my personal transformation.

I recognize that several characteristic and defining features of my personality have not ceased to manifest. However, I can assure you convinced that they have attenuated their intensity.

I haven't stopped feeling anxious, but it's no longer an experience that grabs me and takes possession of me. Now it is lighter and sporadic in its presentation and, most of the time, controllable.

I'm learning to be patient and not get angry when things don't go the way I intend or I don't have control over them.

In the same way, I have incorporated flexibility into my behavioral repertoire and my body through dance and body expression, which helps me not to obsess over pretending that everything has to be done under my codes or points of view.

I have also managed to significantly reduce the prosecution — that favorite sport or pastime that traps us people in the social six — also recognizing that this aspect is intimately intertwined with self-esteem, because every time I made a judgment, I was indirectly expressing with pride that the people I sat in the dock were inferior to me.

At present I don't need to diminish or take away anyone's authority to feel valuable. Now I recognize myself as important and courageous, without having to leave because of vanity or arrogance. I'm no longer afraid to show myself or experience guilt for not being the way others want me to be. The episodes of inadequacy appear with less and less intensity, they are more sporadic and I feel more qualified to socialize, leaving behind the shyness that accompanied me for long years of my life.

Among the pending issues, I recognize that decision-making is still an issue to continue working, because although it is true that I stop much less before the challenge of changes, I still do not do it at the speed I would like.

Traits and attitudes acquired during the process

By contacting my deepest emotions and expressing them properly, I have found inner tranquility and calm, developing the ability to be patient, to be moved and excited.

By making decisions from strength and courage I have felt my self-esteem increase, and I have been able to let go of the belief that "everything is going to go wrong". The same thing happens to me when dissenting from authorities and expressing it, and also in better handling frustration, accepting that I cannot please everyone and ceasing to imagine what others may think of me, while avoiding self-judgment and judging others.

An authentic joie de vivre has been born in me, which has led me to meet new people and to establish a greater number of affective bonds; now I surrender confidently to the flow of life,

accepting what is, what is coming, flowing with intuition, stopping only what is necessary in thought to, immediately, act with freedom and courage.

I recognize myself with a better sense of humor, I laugh with ease, even at myself. I find myself flexible and open to listening to opinions other than my own. I find benevolence with those who confront me, without automatically discrediting them in my mind. I am more self-indulgent, I see myself with less critical eyes and I am able to welcome myself, wrap myself, and accept myself in my weakness and with my mistakes.

I trust myself. I am more confident in my physique, in the energy that my presence radiates, in my knowledge and wisdom, in my sexual power. To touch and be touched. I live pleasure with pleasure, I enjoy it.

What helps along the way?

I confess that, in my case, the path is still being made and, nevertheless, I have walked with decisive steps, given thanks to unlocking or completing, through therapeutic exercises, intimate situations that have been barriers in my life.

Like, for example, facing fear. Frequently do something that scares me or that can cause me, without putting any life at risk, knowing that fear is an ally, not an obstacle. Acknowledging it, acknowledging my doubt, my ambiguity, has been painful and at the same time liberating. I have let go of the need to be perfect. Other times I have intentionally failed in some responsibility that has been entrusted to me, such as being late to one of my therapeutic groups, for example

By expressing my disagreement with authority and defending my position, I manage to act with determination and strength, with courage, feeling the impulse no matter what they say. On the other hand, practicing compassionate love with myself has helped me heal from self-demand and self-criticism.

Therapeutic theatre has helped me. Exaggerating my own character, my gestures or acting my opposite has liberated me, because it has allowed me to bring into my daily life an antidote tool against my character. Every day I leave the house as if I were brave.

As a psychotherapist that I am, the gestalt and corporal approach, the SAT process, the contact with Claudio Naranjo, with his being and his work, meditation, body work, expression, biodance and authentic movement have helped me in my process of discovering myself: taking away what covers me and does not allow me to shine with my own light.

In a more particular way, the work with my parental figures has served me well: it has earned me to dissociate myself from the toxicity of my mother, a very fearful woman who breastfed me with her insecurity, as well as shaking off the gray shadow of a father without guts.

A different relationship in front of the ego

First of all, I want to mention ego awareness and acceptance as the psychic structure that has helped me get to where I am. Knowing, recognizing and accepting myself as a coward has been a painful and sad mission, and it has also been the catapult that has launched me to get out of me and begin to dare. I have learned to live without a previous script, with the certainty of having the courage to wait for what comes, knowing that at every moment I will have the right response. I am learning to tolerate uncertainty.

Here, I want to refer to changes achieved in my professional work as a therapist. Before, when giving therapy, I was very worried about determining what my next intervention would be and I was filled with anticipatory anxiety seeking to fulfill my mental scheme of how I should follow the process in each session. Now I never know what my next intervention will be, I remain silent, without resorting to any established pattern in my mind, of how to be a good therapist and how a good session unfolds. Instead, I hope, I am fully present, in contact with myself and my consultant, and something always comes up, and it is just that which appears, which tells me my next step. This makes me enjoy my work much more and each session is a unique and wonderful experience. No two are alike.

I am in deep contact with my desire versus what I should feel, I judge less severely, critically. I recognize my fears, doubts, craving and ambiguity, although, paradoxically, I find serenity and joy, with less mental dispersion. I'm more attentive.

What has helped us to open our hearts

Obviously, the SAT process, whose modules I have taken twice, has been fundamental. And also the meditation retreat with Claudio Naranjo for ten days, where his presence and his indication, at a decisive moment when he suggested me to practice authentic movement, led me to contact a transpersonal experience that began with panic and terror on my part, where at times I thought I was going crazy, but that I could sustain, and that feeling transmuted into a very deep experience of contact with an infinitely loving presence within me.

I have been helped by meditation, gestalt and body therapeutic work, energy work, breathing, body expression, unlocking body segments; the awareness and contact workshops in which I am a facilitator; holotropic breathing exercises with classical music, especially sacred music.

In my work as a therapist I am constantly faced with the dramatic realities of my patients, who generously share their hurt intimacy, generating in me the effect of the drop of water that falls constantly and that, by force of hitting the stone, gradually pierces it. The same effect is produced in my heart by the daily sharing from the pain of my patients, giving itself subtly and slowly an opening, from compassionate understanding and solidarity.

It has helped me to participate in indigenous rituals and celebrations with sacred plants, such as the yopo, whose influence made me connect inside with what I call the album of my life. I saw a lot of people that I no longer remembered, like the driver of the school transport of the kindergarten that I attended when I was four years old, and many other people who throughout my life I judged insignificant, com or the old Doña Cande, who attended the little shop to which my brothers and I used to go to eat sweets when we were children.

I also saw my mother and my father with my grandparents and with my great-grandparents and many other men and women who paraded with them in front of me, and of whom I was certain were my ancestors. There was no lack in that vision of a group of people who have been, throughout my life, my benefactors or teachers. At one point I burst into a still cry, feeling a deep gratitude for each of the people who appeared on my journey, recognizing that they had all contributed something to my life and had enriched me.

On another occasion, the indigenous ceremony was animated by the sacred plant of the yagé, and at the risk of seeming irreverent to a religious public, I dare to compare this ritual to receiving the sacrament of the Eucharist. A mystical presence manifested itself in me and a deep voice that emerged from within me appealed to surrender to the divine, recognizing in all that exists and in all people, the manifestation of God.

Experiences with these have allowed me to practice passive am or com and to open my heart more widely, as well as to go to others, beyond appearance, looking for their essence, accepting them as they are and recognizing their inner richness as human beings.

Recommendations for therapeutic work with a six social ego

The premise is that people of this character do a lot of body work, rooting exercises, dance, spontaneous movement, sensitization and contact exercises, promote the exploration of pleasure (Dionysian experiences); work with creativity and artistic expression (clay, painting, sculpture, etc.), favoring the expression of feelings and focusing contact with emotions.

It also helps to meditate and even practice the Gurdjieff stop technique, in which several times a day, we stop to answer what I'm doing, what I'm thinking, and what I'm feeling. It is also necessary to work with compassionate love to balance it with admiring or devotional love, which is almost always the most developed.

You have to put a lot of emphasis on building self-confidence. You have to help him discover the courage to act and make decisions following the impulse to question norms, structures, submission, obedience and the need to look good. It is important that the patient learns to act immediately, because this does not give time for doubt to appear and, therefore, anxiety does not appear either.

The optimal state of a social six

The optimal state of an enneatype six, social subtype, will be, in my opinion, full acceptance of myself and my fears. This acceptance will allow me to relax and conceive a deep state of gratitude, joy and self-confidence. Freed from the sense of duty, I will be able to choose day by day the life I want to live, trusting with my heart and intuition, feeling loved for what I am and not for what I do.

In this way, the next step will be to live my emotions freely, containing myself with kindness, being sober but with a sense of humor, optimistic, cheerful, experiencing life with serenity, calm and peaceful, open to fun, joy and pleasure.

I will express my unconditional love and absent of judgment, balanced in the three loves; I will show myself and be assertive and reliable without explaining or justifying the actions, accepting the error and the ability to correct, on my part and on the part of others. I will live creating a world of possibilities, with more tranquility, facing what comes in the moment without thinking about hypotheses, risks or dangers.