Interpersonal Strategy And Associated Irrational Ideas

Crazy ideas are automatic thoughts that stem from a cognitive distortion. They are false judgments and assumptions produced from the basic cognitive fixation, which, combined with the corresponding passion, forms the central core of a certain type. Ichazo defines fixations as specific cognitive failures; aspects of a self’s automatic system that, in a peculiar way, alter the perception of reality and condition behavior.

From the primordial wound, there is an incessant leakage of meaning. The ego's program is repeatedly executed with fixed commands. Thus, we can call crazy or irrational ideas those that arise in the mind unconsciously, but in a dictatorial way. Anger has been repeatedly frustrated due to learned programs since childhood, and the code for the installation of the perfectionist mechanism was generated. The ego protects the child, facilitating an escape from reality.

The cognitive fixation of E1 consists of perfectionism, to which irrational assumptions and crazy ideas are linked in their mind. These are largely common to all three subtypes, but with different nuances. In the Self-Preservation 1, more than in the other subtypes, the conviction of holding something wrong, being imperfect, or defective becomes evident. They seek to identify flaws, to find something wrong in the body or mind, and believe that this is the reason their parents did not love or care for them enough. Therefore, it seems logical for the Self-Preservation 1 to believe that they will only achieve love if they improve and correct themselves. "If I am not perfect, I cannot be loved." Specifically, there is the belief that, through strong moral integrity and a virtuous life, they will be able to attain a perfection without which they will not earn love or respect. Consequently, they will never consider things to be "well done" and will therefore believe they need to improve them. They will specialize in observing a single mistake in contrast to many successes, and will

rarely feel satisfied with what they give or receive. Similarly, they will develop hypersensitivity to judgments and criticism, continuously checking whether their emotional state is "how it should be."

The Self-Preservation subtype feels deeply imperfect or insufficient and ends up turning this feeling into their most limiting belief, leading them to react with an obsessive and constant impulse to improve themselves. The compensatory mechanism for their great self-criticism is the ideal of perfection. Thus, they reactively transform anger into an effort to be perfect.

From a clinical standpoint, this character’s style corresponds to the obsessive-compulsive personality type, with manifestations of the Superego formed by the internalization of parental norms, rules, and prohibitions.

-"The girl felt that I was not worthy of love because she tried and tried and tried and it was never enough; in the end, I felt I wasn’t worthy of love because I’m not perfect, and that’s where the crazy idea of wanting to be perfect to become worthy of love starts, to make them love me." – MERCÈ FALCÓ

When this character's inner child feels judged rather than accepted, they begin to treat themselves as a harsh judge, leading to a continuous state of non-acceptance. They then compensate for the basic wound, that is, feeling imperfect and inadequate, by creating ideal models of how they should be and act.

Perfectionists spiral in an infinite and multidimensional demand; something more perfect can always be found for what is perfect. We are faced with a designed trap, an alternative circuit to reality, neurotic, manic, compulsive. Perfectionism is a survival struggle disguised as temperance and moderation.

The mask is civilized, the underlying reality is barbaric. Self-Preservation 1, in addition to demanding that reality be not only good but perfect, inherited the vision and belief that the world is terribly imperfect. In the embodied destruction that is anger, there is an implicit and determined pessimism.

The Pursuit of Perfection as an Endless Task

-The search for perfection is an endless task that is entirely related to the fact that, as a child, "I could never get anyone to tell me that I was doing well...". It has to do with the other person looking at themself, seeking external approval, and with being told, "You did so well, how well did it go for you." – BLANCA MARTÍNEZ

-"You never get fully satisfied, you get excited, and you go and keep going: 'I can do better, I can do better, and this comma here, that period there, and I’ll change this sentence and this expression.' And you get tangled up. And you enjoy it. And it's a positive feedback. But you have to say: 'Stop! Tomorrow I'll finish.'" – LOLA REBOREDO

While the interpersonal strategy of the Self-Preservation 1 focuses on perfectionism, or rather, on the pursuit of self-perfection, it also aims to get others to adhere to their ideals of perfection.

-"I don't spend much time blaming myself, I may initially, but then something in me overcomes it. 'It's just that the other didn't do their part,' and I go back to trying to improve everything, perfection above all, and I didn’t manage it, but the other much less so. In the aspect of 'I did this, I said something,' I defend to myself the continuation of this perfection, not investing much time in blaming myself. I may feel bad, but then I take concrete steps to clarify the situation and need to find a solution." – SÉRGIO ISLA

By presenting himself as a controlled and well-mannered person, sometimes his severe and moralistic attitude is enough to create an atmosphere around him where others don’t feel comfortable, or they feel inferior. He has a tendency to correct and control, thus inhibiting the pleasure and spontaneity in others; as a result, he becomes annoying.

The aspiration to perfection, situated in the realm of ideals, translates into concrete action in the here and now, in the pursuit of the "right thing." The rigidity of his ideal model and the practical spontaneity necessary for any action friction.

He has a fitness instinct that scans and calculates what he "should do." When stressed, he turns to the binary system of good-bad, right-wrong, and bases most of his responses on these oppositions. This also applies to the testimony of his own conscience: he is inflexible with himself. He whitewashes his behavior, is hyper-adaptive toward others, and avoids friction with them at his own expense. If E9 forgets, the Self-Preservation 1, as a result of their wear and tear, becomes bitter.

Moralistic reprimands are the means by which he manipulates and tends to influence the behavior of others. This is most evident in the way he deals with children, where he usually reproduces a model he received and becomes a strict father who exerts paternalistic authoritarianism with the goal of gaining obedience and respect.

He pretends to keep his natural impulses under control and, therefore, his idea is that getting angry, attacking, or rebelling doesn't correspond to civilized people, nor to virtuous ones. Moreover, giving in to instinct is dangerous, and in people raised with very rigid

principles, giving space to sexual instinct and yielding to temptation is not in accordance with being a good person. Sex becomes something dirty and vulgar. In general, in all E1 subtypes, duty is more important than pleasure, and playing and having fun take away precious time from serious matters.

The Internal Judge and the Guilt: A Struggle for Perfection

-"My mother's message was direct: 'Sit down!', 'Behave!', 'Be quiet!'. Basically, doing anything, anything at all, was exposing myself to the possibility of a scolding, if not a punishment." – QUIQUE SEGUÍ -"I studied at a school for priests, but soon realized that if you step out of line, you have to pray a number of Our Fathers, and there was no problem, no cognitive dissonance, I did what I wanted and then prayed a bit." – SÉRGIO ISLA

The Internal Judge and Guilt

As the aggressive side is taboo, the SP1 (Self-Preservation subtype 1) transforms it into a critical attitude. He has a highly developed inner judge, a guilt-inducing inner voice with which he identifies. The mechanics of perfectionism are driven by this severe internal judge, who judges both internally and externally, like a radar scanning what’s wrong.

Thus, he is used to blaming himself for almost everything, and internal judgment is the only defensive act he can afford.

He is a self-referential individual, an egoistic character with a self that is threatened daily. He has a Superego configured to oppose an imprisoned ego. The ego is in the midst of a struggle, fighting for its identity. It clearly controls its attributions and limits, with a strong, well-defined Ego because it needs to feel this way. It is an Ego that is reinforced, contracted, tense, like a bodybuilder's, hyperdeveloped.

Guilt is one of the most prominent characteristics of this subtype, where the judge and the guilt are intrinsically linked. Guilt is also fueled by the emotion of anger turned inward, the constant self-talk of "I’m doing it wrong," which leads him to blame himself directly. From his high self-demand, he feels guilty for being the way he is. It’s hard for him to accept and love himself.

-"I accept the punishments of the inner judge by positioning myself in guilt. I feel guilty before the judge who accuses me, I buy into it, I believe it. My inner judge is like a broken record, repeating: 'It’s your fault, it’s your fault, it’s your fault... you

messed up!' I could always have done better, or done something else... In the end, the guilt is from being who I am; the guilt of being me; that's why, for this or that, if I do something, it's because I do it, and if I don't do it, it's because I don’t do it, the issue is that I can't let myself live in peace." – MERCÈ FALCÓ -"I have a hard time with my inner judge. We fight each other. It’s as if suddenly it occupies my head and I can't deal with anything else. 'Because you did it wrong.' There comes a point when I tell myself, 'Okay, I didn’t do it wrong, I did it badly.' I get angry at myself. And I also get angry with myself because I realize it and wish I could avoid it." – BLANCA MARTÍNEZ

"I was an air traffic controller in the Navy. One night, there was an accident involving a helicopter doing an experimental exercise that crashed into a ship. My involvement was in preparing a diagram of how the exercise should have been conducted. When the helicopter crashed, all my concern was going over every detail because I was part of the pre-flight briefing. I kept checking if I had explained everything correctly, if I had made any mistake somewhere, as a way to relieve my guilt. It wasn’t about closing my eyes and wondering if I was partially responsible or not, but rather going over the facts repeatedly until I found if I made any mistake somewhere." – QUIQUE SEGUÍ

The place from which this person internally positions, observes, and identifies themselves is that hyper-demanding judge whose basic polarity is the defendant. Since there is a judge, there is a defendant who has committed a crime and deserves punishment. Guilt is an inner voice that accuses them. The psychological defects of internal disqualification lead to a great self-devaluation, which they compensate for by seeking perfection. We could say that in the psychic world of this subtype, anger is forbidden, but, on the other hand, guilt is more than allowed.

Differentiating the Self-Preservation 1 from the Social E6 and Exploring the Internal Struggles

The Self-Preservation 1 often contrasts with the E6 Social in terms of their approach to self-criticism and identity. While the E6 Social is typically hesitant, dependent, and focused on external validation, the Self-Preservation 1 tends to be more megalomaniacal, arrogant, and visceral, with a strong, authoritarian Ego that stands in stark contrast to the fearful and dependent tendencies of the E6.

The Judge and the Perfectionist Self

-"I've discovered that the more demanding I am, the more frustration I find. The judge lives from the judgments I make about myself, and if I express how I feel, I don’t accumulate anger; the judge is left without judgments. Dismantling the judge within me has to do with speaking, saying what’s happening with me, and also with perceiving what I project in the other’s gaze, how I use that to judge myself." – MERCÈ FALCÓ -"Isn’t it arrogant to believe I’m guilty of everything, as if I were God and everything were my responsibility?" – MERCÈ FALCÓ

In this subtype, the feeling of guilt is often linked to the emotional context of childhood, where the individual never felt "good enough." They maintain a persecutory relationship with themselves, continuously reprimanding themselves for what they did or what they "should have done." They may become frustrated for not having acted differently, eventually justifying that what they did was the best option or blaming themselves for not having perceived something important earlier. The irrational beliefs often associated with this are: "I know what’s best, I know what’s right."

The experience of the fear-guilt axis is hidden beneath a very structured way of life, one that is not designed for surprises. The need to be strong, reinforced by an internalized belief of "I can do anything," buries a long list of fears to which the person reacts as quickly and unconsciously as possible. Their focus is consumed by an ongoing internal dialogue: "I’m not doing this right," constantly judging their own behavior, finding reason after reason to confirm their beliefs. Their high self-demand, alongside the internal discourse of "I’m doing it wrong; I need to watch myself, I need to be on top of things, I’m not valid," reinforces their sense of guilt, while simultaneously conditioning their behavior toward perfection and control.

-"I feel guilty for not doing it right. It doesn't matter how good or bad it was; things had to be done well." – SÉRGIO ISLA

All of these internal movements lead the person to be more focused on what is missing, on the lack. Their desire for perfection is never fully satisfied, and they become self-pursuing, always finding something to point to that needs improvement. Furthermore, they unconsciously long for the idea that when everything is perfect, they’ll be able to rest, but since there are always countless tasks to do, they are accustomed to putting themselves last, delaying their own need for enjoyment.

For some, the feeling of guilt is not as pronounced, as they prefer to ensure that the action is done responsibly before they even experience guilt—or to avoid it altogether.

-"I connect much less with guilt because I crush myself in the moment. Guilt seems to look back and see how badly I did it. I don’t let myself be alone until I get it right." – SÉRGIO ISLA

In adulthood, the feeling of guilt is much more intense when the familial rules were transmitted to the child with great rigidity, tension, or yelling. This can lead to dysfunctional guilt, which only causes suffering for the person. Guilt is directly related to the frequency and intensity of self-blame, producing feelings of restlessness, pain, anxiety, and regret. For the Self-Preservation 1, both guilt and anger are emotions that are difficult to sustain because of their intensity, and they will quickly attempt to take action to reduce or eliminate the burden, as well as the uncomfortable sensations these emotions cause.

The Control Mechanism in the Self-Preservation 1 Subtype

For the Self-Preservation 1, the mechanisms they use to escape imperfection and guilt are control, effort, and rigidity. The obsessive idea of self-perfection is intrinsically tied to self-control. There is a deep-seated mistrust in themselves, which is why they exert such control over their actions. The "judge" watches over the "accused," controlling and perfecting them in a bid to avoid imperfection.

Letting Go of Control: The Struggle with Self-Judgment

-"For me, letting go of control means allowing myself to be, without self-judgment. The obsessive idea of self-perfection is linked to self-control. I don’t trust myself, which is why I control myself. Control, for me, means, above all, self-control and the fear of losing control. Control is a monster that devours me. Life is like this; I can’t control it. Otherwise, I enter into fear of life, of life’s uncontrollability, which I associate with the fear of losing emotional control, something I saw in my mother." – MERCÈ FALCÓ

Perfection as Control

While the pursuit of perfection is a core fixation of this Enneatype, the meaning of "perfection" varies depending on each individual's characteristics. When a Self-Preservation 1 believes "things must be perfect," it’s essential to question what "perfect" truly means. For this character, perfection essentially means having everything checked and analyzed from different perspectives. Perfection, to them, means having everything under control.

This reveals the fundamental connection between perfection and control: by protecting the emotional wound of childhood, the automation of self-control is activated to ensure that no one will tell them they're doing something wrong or demand that they do better. This is the root of the need for control.

Perfection as Control

-"Perfect, in my opinion, above all, means I have everything under control, that everything is processed according to what I believe is the right thing to do. I also associate this with inflexibility. Things are as they are, and they can say whatever they want about how things should be. There’s that rigidity, not exploring other paths. Things are as they are, and having everything under control, not being surprised, makes us inflexible and rigid." – BLANCA MARTÍNEZ

For this subtype, perfection equals control. The first thing we encounter in the realm of Self-Preservation is excessive control over one's behavior. Later, there is an external control, often aimed at others or the world, to reduce the intense internal demands placed on themselves. External control often appears in work situations, where they aim to maximize their efficiency and productivity.

The Internal Struggle: Shame, Guilt, and Emotional Suppression

-"Showing anger is something I experience as a failure because I couldn't control myself. That’s where shame, guilt, and sadness come from. But self-control is constant." – QUIQUE SEGUÍ -"I control everything. And until today, I don't allow myself—now that I’m an adult, with no father or tutor, no one to tell me how to do things—but I still have the internal judge that tells me 'this is right, this is wrong,' in every task I do, in every stop, in every traffic light, in all the supermarket lines." – SÉRGIO ISLA

Adaptability and the Fear of Violence

With others, the Self-Preservation 1 can appear adaptive, kind, and considerate. This is their way of creating a cordial environment that avoids what they fear most: violence, to which they are hypersensitive.

The Dormant Volcano: The Fear of Emotional Outbursts

If they don’t feel emotionally repaired by others, the dormant volcano of anger will be triggered once again. In the Self-Preservation 1, this volcano is deep and covered, seeming dormant, but it spews smoke and ash. Rather than being directly aggressive or seeking to make justice vehemently, they remain silent, quietly indignant. They avoid expressing anger, swallowing their rage along with their angry words. "Emotions are of a low level."

In summary, for the Self-Preservation 1, control is a mechanism to shield themselves from imperfection and emotional chaos, but it also creates an internal battle between their desire for self-perfection and the overwhelming need to suppress and manage their emotions.

Emotional Control in the Self-Preservation 1

Clearly, the Self-Preservation 1 not only controls the expression of anger but also most emotions. In general, the emotional world makes them uncomfortable, as it is something unknown to them, and it scares them. Remember, they were not a spontaneous child, unable to express themselves or throw tantrums; they come from a childhood with a repressive and emasculating emotional education, both in terms of experimentation and expression.

Emotionally, they did not feel seen or cared for, and in their case, what was demanded or rewarded was self-control and rigidity. Therefore, the more intense the contact with emotions, the more unsettling it becomes.

-"When I was a child, I didn’t feel seen when I was experiencing an emotional moment, but when I controlled myself. For example, we would go to my aunt's house and...: 'Look at what you are doing!' I was trained in this, not in others. I never suspected there could be satisfaction in the emotional world. And, out of ignorance, I was afraid. It's a territory I don't know, and if I don't know it, I can't control it. The emotional world of others is disturbing to me because I can't control it." - Quique Seguí -"I didn't see emotions at home, not for good or bad. It was all a very E1 environment, very controlled; emotions weren't shown above, but also not below." - Sérgio Isla

The Need for Control

As a result, control gives them a sense of calm and peace: when everything is under control, they feel they can rest. Moreover, on an unconscious level, control places them in a position of power: being in control means believing that they dominate the situation, and that things happen because of them. Either way, the ultimate outcome is excessive control and a great expenditure of energy to gain the neurotic security that no one will tell them they are doing something wrong.

-"Often, I say: 'I am at peace,' and it’s because I have everything under control. It’s not that I’ve relaxed, it’s that everything is under control. That’s the foundation. It’s hard, it’s very strong, we’re social beings, but I feel somewhat antisocial. What lies behind happiness, or what is more achievable, which is peace, serenity, I have achieved it in safe and controlled environments, knowing where the bull will come from, knowing what I have around me. In other words, I’m at peace, but at the same time in control. Let’s say I make war to achieve peace." - Sérgio Isla

Fear of Emotional Expression and the Hyperemotional

-They did not only fear the expression of emotion but also excessively emotional people. They saw everything as somewhat fake. This is because of their upbringing: in some way, you lose value; if you lose value at home, you lose value altogether. "When I argue, if suddenly someone cries, I leave and say: 'Be a little more adult.'" - Sérgio Isla

Relationship with Authority

Regarding authority, the Self-Preservation 1 demonstrates a greater and more passionate interest in abstract norms, their values, and beliefs about what is right or wrong, rather than the concrete authority of individuals. This, in interpersonal relationships, becomes an instrument of domination and manipulation because they impose these same norms on others and, above all, because they want to be right. That’s why they place themselves above others: they like to give advice; they know what would be good for others...

Whether due to the need for justice, intrinsic to this character, or because of their specialized view of what is lacking, they have difficulty trusting authority. They may maintain a posture of distrust towards it; or, in the other polarity, if they feel that authority acts from ethical and justice-based principles, they idealize it, accept it, and follow its precepts with devotion. Although this character adheres to a hierarchical view of reality and respects authority in an abstract sense, deep down, they distrust it and only submit to individuals in positions of unquestionable authority. Being a character specialized in

observing flaws, they demand from authority not only knowledge of the subject but also the ability to wield command without aggression, but with authority.

Control and Narcissism In The Self-Preservation 1

The need for control and the narcissism that comes from feeling more prepared will make the Self-Preservation 1 exert a dominant style over others when confident. Their relationship with the will to power is polite but persistent. They will place themselves in a leadership position, forgetting to take turns or open rounds of listening during decision-making. They practice this art of domination without overt aggression, and their "antennas" always guide them to move with precision, avoiding criticism. They modulate their invasion as they advance.

In general, they are comfortable in relationships framed by a hierarchical organization. They prioritize order and respect hierarchies, and they diligently occupy managerial roles, showing particular obedience to authority. This projection, in reality, hides a deep need to be obeyed. In short, they seek relationships where they can be confirmed in a dominant role, and where their good and respectable self-image is not threatened. They tend to dominate in relationships through subterfuge, seeking to predominate because they are virtuous and because of their ethical or moral stature: "I have power because I deserve it." Moreover, they are interested in power and money, but they hide this even from themselves. Since they do not recognize anger, their tendency to want to dominate in interpersonal relationships is also not very visible to them. Thus, they manifest dominance not directly and explicitly, but through a series of secondary strategies.

-"I have difficulty recognizing authority; they have to prove to me that they are an authority on the subject they are dealing with. If they prove it, I’ll follow them to the death. 'Okay, you lead me, but you have to prove to me that you know more about this than I do. If you prove that, I don’t have a problem.' I need to validate authority. If they're not better than me, they won't command me, and in addition to knowing the subject, they must know how to lead. But if they don't know how to lead, then they're no good to me." - Quique Seguí -"What I do is judge that this person is not the right one to be there because they are not doing what I consider should be done. It’s unfair, or immoral, or breaking the rules, and that’s where my judgment is relentless." - Blanca Martínez -"The authority must meet every requirement that I consider is there. I, at least, take all the flaws, all the mistakes, with a very critical view, because they are not up to the task. But maybe that’s because I think I’m the one who is up to the task." - Lola Rebordo

They usually relate to parents and authority figures with obedience and false respect, often for utilitarian purposes, in order to gain recognition and associate with the privileges of power. Typically, they adopt complacent attitudes, maintaining the mask of virtue in front of them. However, in case of dissent, they may assume an antagonistic position—not directly, but through passive resistance and opposition.

Respect for Laws and Social Norms

On the other hand, whether due to a lack of contact with their needs and desires, a strong self-criticism, or that distorted awareness by which they do not believe they deserve or have the right to, it is difficult for them to say "I want." Therefore, they transform it into "I must, it's due, it’s appropriate, it’s just." They adopt, therefore, a strategy of covering their desires, replacing the explicit expression of them with a call for respect for social laws and rules, and adherence to moral norms and abstract principles.

-"Even if I disagree with the norm, I accept it, and I demand that it be applied universally, for me as well; even if I disagree with it, I firmly believe that the norm allows us to live in society." - Quique Seguí

With a rigid mind clinging to "what is right," they are individuals with a strong sense of justice. The Self-Preservation 1 protects itself under the shield of laws and social norms to defend themselves and, in this way, compensates for their need to be right, originating from the childhood wound of injustice. Thus, they end up feeling that they possess the truth, which reinforces their sense of security, giving them a feeling of superiority over others. Feeling in possession of the truth is a reactive defense mechanism that gives them security to act, and at the same time, it also compensates for the continuous self-judgment of whether they will "do right or wrong."

In this way, you balance the fear of making mistakes, which can be very paralyzing, with the conviction of possessing the truth. Showing clarity and not giving a sense of failure is also a defensive shield, an image of strength and security.

-I think it has to do with that resolute and uncontrollable image I often project. So, I speak in such a way that my truth is the truth. It seems like I decided everything in an instant, and I have no doubts. But it’s about those moments when I am paralyzed to make a decision, whether I’m making the right choice or not, which has to do with perfection. However, what I convey is that I’ve had it clear and precise from the start. It’s about the way I present or say things. People have always told me: "You speak with certainty..." That’s how it is. And when I say something, it’s because I

believe it, I firmly believe in it. That feeling of certainty with which I say it, that expression of "I am in the truth." — Blanca Martínez -"The truth allows me to move; having the conviction that I have the truth is what allows me to act. Without that certainty, I can’t make decisions." — Quique Seguí

Responsibility and Seriousness

The protective tendency of the Self-Preservation 1 leads them to exercise a paternalistic authoritarianism, imposing their cult of purity, expecting from others the same self-control and self-discipline they demand from themselves.

It is common for them to position themselves in service of the more fragile and disadvantaged people, protecting them while maintaining some emotional distance.

During childhood, they occupied a position of responsibility that wasn’t theirs to take; it was either given to them or they were made to take it. As a child, they followed the family rules, kept to schedules, helped their mother with household chores or younger siblings. They internalized parental and social rules and prohibitions, identifying with their Superego. In this way, they either impose or renounce their desires. The guardian of this internalized normative code is the self-blaming judge, which is triggered whenever they break their own rules, making them feel guilty and preventing them from feeling or connecting with their needs.

The child realizes that if they don’t cause trouble, help, and are responsible and autonomous, they will receive the love they seek. They end up suffering from an excessive sense of responsibility, shaping the mask of the good child. In turn, this excessive responsibility brings with it a sense of isolation and loneliness.

-"I helped my mom, she worked, and I had to take care of my siblings. The responsibility of having to do things and not being able to go out and have fun happened a lot to me; in the afternoon or on Saturdays, my school friends would go out, and I had to help my mom at home or be with my siblings." — Mercè Falcó -"In my coaching training, I recognized two of my 'characters': the Frustrated and the Jesus Christ figure. I have had a serious behavior since childhood. From what I saw in my daily life, it became increasingly clear that my parents were incapable of taking care of me or my brother, managing their businesses and our finances, or keeping their relationship stable, even for our sake. I imposed on myself: constant work, absolute austerity at home, not going out to parties or travel... But I didn’t know what to do, nor how, and I felt irresponsible when I worried about my family. Year after year, everything stayed the same, and it got worse. It was so bad because

life was a constant and painful loss, a slow collapse, because I helplessly watched the inevitable funeral of my family." — Cristian Moreno

Used to being responsible since childhood, it often happens that, in their adult relationships, they end up overprotecting or taking on responsibilities that aren’t theirs. If the other person doesn’t want to or can’t do more, they might find themselves attending to and taking care of issues that don’t belong to them.

-Now I see it more clearly and try to distance myself, but not before: things have to be done, they have to be resolved, and that was the case for me. And sometimes I also do things for other people out of my impatience and speed, even if those people didn’t ask me to do so. And it bothers me when they don’t even thank me. Now, if they ask me for something, I’ll do it, but if they don’t ask, I won’t; just like I used to do before. - BLANCA MARTÍNEZ -"I infantilize the people around me, I help without them asking, and on top of that, I don’t let them learn to solve their problems. Result: next time they’ll come asking me to do it again." - QUIQUE SEGUÍ

In this character, along with responsibility, we find seriousness: these are children who didn’t have fun around them during childhood. Instead, what they had was responsibility, and they end up becoming serious people, as indicated by the tone of their voice, the gestures on their face, and their movements.