Other Characteristic Traits And Psychodynamic Considerations

Imaginative/Creative

The emotional, sensitive, and introspective aspect allows you to more easily access your creative and imaginative side. From an early age, you enjoyed consoling yourself and entertaining yourself in fantastic, dreamlike worlds in which your imagination allows you to compensate for the great inhibition you feel in real life. This imaginary world, which you have created and in which you somehow believe will materialize in the future, serves to help you metabolize everyday reality. Poetry, art, and music become channels of expression to the outside world.

Sensible

Low self-esteem and the need to defend yourself from others lead you to reject criticism or behaviors that challenge you. Your gaze is perpetually directed to the outside world, and the continuous comparison you make with yourself leads you to give a subjective reading and interpretation of what happens. The slightest criticism annihilates you, and you feel that you have given a lot—more than others—but find yourself without recognition. Additionally, since it is difficult for you to express your opinion directly out of fear of being hurt or conflicted, you expect the same from others: understanding and empathy.

Romantic

For you, life is hard, difficult, and sad, but it is characterized by a romantic feeling inside. Thanks to your romanticism, the world becomes lighter and more bearable; it's as if you add a note or a touch of color to so much pain. The romantic vision you harbor within you is expressed through poetry, music, and the search for positive loving situations and opportunities. It is as though you refuse to resign yourself to the harsh reality through your romantic aspect. Through romance, you sweeten a bitter pill.

Passive-Aggressive/Self-Destructive

You are not allowed to express anger and always repress hatred. Showing hatred toward your mother (or father) would be tantamount to losing her, something no child could afford. So, you learned to repress your hatred and swallow it. You began to hate yourself, believing you were defective, unworthy of love, and guilty of not being loved, in order to save your

mother. The parental anger you experienced in childhood was too destructive and distressing.

Introspective

The closure and isolation in which you took refuge as a child and grew up somehow led you to spend a lot of time in contact with yourself, listening to and analyzing yourself, doing for yourself what no one did when you were a child. Pain and contact with suffering continually stimulate you to study yourself and investigate your inner dynamics. You long to escape your suffering and have to continually face it, but you do not believe this can be done by acting or making decisions on your own. Instead, you prefer an interior movement of study and analysis of how you are, what you feel, and why.

Reserved

You are extremely private and only talk about yourself and your intimate experiences with very few people, as you do not trust others to understand you. Since childhood, you have experienced not being understood, not being seen, and feeling as though no one is aware of your needs. Therefore, as an adult, you have little faith that anyone can truly understand you.

Feminine

Delicate, sweet, and languid. You present yourself in a delicate and tender way, and thus, within the masculine Social 4, you embody characteristics such as listening, welcoming, understanding, caring, as well as a friendly physiognomy in which the smile, a manifestation of benevolence toward the world, is always subtly present. There is no trace of aggressiveness or attack in you, but instead, sweetness and tenderness.

Gentle

You are always kind, express yourself in soft ways, and approach others gently, as you want to avoid conflicts and losses. You use kindness to please others, trying to avoid behaviors that might provoke or irritate. You have learned to tread carefully in the world, trying to

prevent or avoid the mood swings or attacks of your parents. Thus, you learned from childhood that this soft approach is what works best for you in relationships.

Comprehensive

You are willing to understand the motives of others. Strong empathy, combined with a fear of abandonment and conflict, makes you lenient and benevolent toward the motives and reasons of others. You tend to put yourself in others' shoes, justifying their actions, even in situations where you are humiliated or not seen. You struggle with separation, as well as primary relationships. From a young age, you learned that it was better not to express your opinions or desires clearly, as this created distance with your parents. Thus, you learned to understand and justify them.

Lazy and Procrastinator

You tend to resist committing and are lazy about completing tasks. You often postpone execution because you always feel that you are not up to the task, and frequently believe you are incapable or that you won't do it to the best of your ability. Fear of failure paralyzes you. This is closely related to low self-esteem and a lack of confidence in your own abilities. No one ever believed in you; as a child, not only were you not encouraged, but you were devalued. Your procrastination is linked to a need to do things perfectly, even beyond what is required. You do not admit mistakes to yourself, and this demands enormous energy to complete tasks.

Criticism and Self-Disqualification

You are critical and disqualifying both with yourself and with others. You tend to be critical of yourself because that has been your experience. You have been heavily criticized and disqualified. To avoid being completely annihilated by the perceived superiority of others, you tend to have a critical view and express, indirectly, disapproval or negative judgments about others, their way of being, or their actions. Therefore, the criticism of others stems from an attempt to survive, to not be completely crushed by comparison with the outside world.

Sadness and Suffering

You have felt sadness and suffering from a young age, even before you were fully aware of it. As an adult, you continue to carry this suffering, as you remain attached to the need for love that was never satisfied. Your attention does not shift, and you do not find compensation in life because it is as though you are still waiting for that love. There is a part of you that is obstinate in not wanting to give up this need, which is why you do not learn to give yourself the love you didn't receive as a child. Thus, love becomes something sublime, inaccessible, and almost impossible to find and experience.

Proud

You react strongly to offense or injury, creating distance from others or even leaving, becoming cold and distant to defend yourself. You do not back down, you resist your suffering without showing it, and you confuse pride with strength. You have the illusion that pride can protect you. However, it only retriggers the wound, hurting you the most.

Shy

You enjoy being social and need others, but you tend to hide and find it difficult to expose yourself, especially in new and large social settings. Your shyness stems from an excessive concern for the judgment of others, a perception of being inferior, and feelings of inadequacy. From a young age, you have experienced the weight of being judged, often being asked to be different from who you were or to better fit the context. You have developed an excessive tendency to focus on your inner world of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

Pessimistic / Distrustful

You perceive the world as dangerous and unpredictable, so you tend to always see the negative side of things and situations. Through your pessimism, you believe you can anticipate and control the pain you will feel when something bad happens, because you are sure it will! You have no confidence in the course of events or even in yourself, which makes it functional for you to remain passive and withdrawn, while also allowing you to complain and suffer.

Insecure

You have a constant doubt that your actions or words can lead to difficult or irremediable situations, and that they could lead to disappointing others and being abandoned by them. This, of course, makes you very insecure. As a child, your father corrected your actions frequently or even criticized you often, which made you insecure and hesitant, especially when it came to taking the initiative or acting instinctively.

Complain / Claim

You complain about small things and are often impatient. You feel the need to continually express and externalize dissatisfaction (e.g., "I'm hungry," "I'm thirsty," "I'm bored"). Through complaining, you seek attention and confirmation that someone is available and sees you. Complaining is also your way of feeling that the other person is present in the relationship—it's a bit like a thermometer to check that they are always there, that they haven’t gone away. However, in situations where you are really hurt or have a real, deep need, you tend to withdraw and not share, because you believe no one will be able to help you. The emptiness and anguish you feel are indescribable; you don't feel like you can trust anyone. You mistrust others and life so much that you think no one can truly help you in the face of so much pain (and, above all, that there’s nothing you can do to stop it). It’s as if you were desperate, exhausted. You also feel immense shame wash over you. Showing such pain in front of another person makes you feel enormous shame, and you feel even more miserable.

Silence

You tend to remain silent, not making noise, not being noticed, and not bothering others. To be accepted, one must not disturb the other, not disturb your mother, and for this reason, as an adult, you tend to be silent, not to interfere with the atmosphere of the environment, and not to be seen by others.

Altruistic / Helpful

Being helpful and offering help stems from the idea that love must be deserved, that it is not free. You have learned that, in order to be loved, you must earn that love in some way, which is why, when something is asked of you, you spontaneously put yourself at the service of others. In addition, having experienced the feeling of need, you somehow know

what it feels like to need help. Being clearly empathetic, it’s automatic for you to help others. Moreover, you find it difficult to refuse someone’s request. Backing away makes you uncomfortable; when you do, you feel like you might lose something—perhaps the other person or the chance of being loved.

Hypersensitive

You are extremely sensitive to loud noises, raised tones of voice, and sudden gestures. It’s as if you’ve developed a constant sense of danger, like you’re always on alert, fearing the possibility of being attacked. As a result, you may react suddenly, sometimes even with excessive vocal responses to environmental stimuli.

Jealous

You are jealous of your partner, but you can also be jealous of other people you love, including friends. Your jealousy stems from the fear that someone else will be preferred over you, as that’s the experience you had as a child when you felt ignored in comparison to your siblings. Furthermore, this fear is intensified by your lack of self-confidence, making you believe that another person could be much more interesting than you in the eyes of your beloved.

Empathic

You have a great ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and experience their emotions. This capacity is supported by your sensitivity and emotional nature. Additionally, empathizing with others allows you to feel useful in the relationship. Empathy unites you with the other person and alleviates any guilt you might feel for not intervening or helping.